This group of guys. That’s me in the gray hoodie with the glasses.
I was lucky enough to be invited by one of these guys (the guy on my far right, the far left looking at the picture – the bald guy) to watch yesterday’s Flyers hockey game from one of the suites. He had bid on and won the suite at an auction.
We were all part of the East Stroudsburg University Swimming and Diving team from the years 1975-1979, over 40 years ago.
The guy to my left with the dark hat on (far right in the picture) was the best man at my wedding, and the guy behind me was my roommate for three years and was also in my wedding party.
To give you a sense of what type of gathering it was going to be, here is how it started as we went through security into the Wells Fargo Center.
We all had to empty our pockets into a bowl, and then walk through a scanner. As I was emptying my pockets, I felt one of the guys reach into my hoodie pocket and say: “Here, hold this.” I assumed he was just joking, so I went through the scanner and as I started putting my wallet, keys, and phone back into my pockets, the security guard came over to me and asked me if I had emptied all my pockets. I said I had, and he then pointed to my jacket pocket and said “What’s in there?”
I reached in, and lo and behold, I pulled out a pocket knife.
I said I have no idea how that got in there, and I turned around and saw my friend laughing and telling the security guard it was his. The security gave him the choice of putting it back into his car or having it confiscated, so my friend just told the security guard to keep it.
I had visions of calling my wife and telling her I was in a holding cell somewhere, and asking if she could come bail me out.
The other guys showed me no sympathy, and were high-fiving the guy whose knife it was.
That set the tone for what the day was going to be like.
I don’t think we watched more than five minutes of the game. We even stayed in the suite for another 30 minutes or so after the game, and by the time we left, we were likely the last fans in the place.
Most of the time was spent reminiscing, catching up with each other, and most of all, laughing.
None of us could get over the fact that college was more than 40 years ago. Two of the guys are retired, and the rest of us are just 2-3 years away from doing so. Some of us have children who will be turning 40 years old this year, and I think there are 18 grandchildren between the six of us.
I found it coincidental that Coach K’s last home game at Duke was yesterday, and many of his former players came back to share the moment with him.
It made me realize that sports are a great way to build friendships. You spend a lot of time together, and you become a team.
And if you’re lucky enough. you become lifelong friends as well…
A great reflection thanks.
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thanks, Bruce. it was a fun day…
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What a great time, a great bunch of friends!!! One thing, though … it seems that in fairness you should have posted a picture of all of you from way back when you were still in college so we could have a “before and after” point of reference!
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probably the only pictures we had from back and then were in our speedos. Nobody would want to see that, especially if we recreated such a picture now 🙂
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Um … thanks but no thanks! 😅
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🙂
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Sounds like you had a blast. It’s pretty great when you can have that much fun with the friends you had 40 years ago.
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it was a fun day…
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Sounds like you had a blast. That’s great to visit with old buddies from 40 years ago. I don’t know anyone from 40 years ago, except family, but I was never on a sports team. Your theory about sports sounds plausible.
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I didn’t stay in touch with anyone from grade school or high school, just these guys from college…
and I think any group activity can lead to such friendships – being in the band, in plays, volunteering. for me, it was the swim team…
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Oh I love this! Long time friendships are wonderful. I still keep in touch with friends from the 80’s. When we talk its pretty much the same as you described, laughter and reminiscing. Thanks for sharing 😁
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it is nice having friends from back in the day, so that you have someone to reminisce those good old days with…
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And if you are even luckier, some of your friends never grow up and stick a pocket knife in your hoodie’s pocket as you go through security,
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whenever we get together, it’s like we are 20 years old again, or in many cases, like we are 12 years old again… 🙂
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nice article
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That must have been an amazing day! Were you pranked like that when you were younger?
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you had to keep your wits about you when those guys were around… 🙂
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The joke was on your friend. It was his pocket knife that got confiscated.😄 I prefer small get togethers like this one. In April a few friends from my dorm in college are getting together in Vegas for a couple of days. I haven’ seen a couple of them since college.
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my friend didn’t seem to care too much about losing his knife.
that sounds like it will be a fun get together! I wonder if you will recognize everyone…
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I guess I’m cheap because I’d hate to lose a perfectly good pocket knife. 😊 I’m sure I will recognize everyone even though hair colors, hair lines, and waist sizes have changed. There will only be six of us.
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I haven’t had a pocket knife since I was about 10 years old 🙂
and six is a good number, you get a chance to speak with everyone…
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Very cool idea! I’ve got a similar thing planned for this summer with a couple of buddies, assuming there is baseball this year. My sister-in-law used to be an advertising executive, and one of the clients she had was a San Francisco television station. One of the perks was attending a couple of football and baseball games in their suite.
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it’s good to know people like that.
by the way, did you ever get my response to your email?
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Yes, I’ll email you back soon. I’m waiting to hear from one of my brothers to finalize my plans.
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looking forward to it…
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You know you are having a good time with your friends when you are at a hockey game and don’t watch the action. OF course, it’s the Flyers, so you didn’t miss much. I agree that teams build bonds that truly last. Good to see you out and about, my friend!
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it’s been a tough year for the Flyers. And the only time we get out of our seats was when we would herd the crowd going crazy because there was a fight. I’ll never get that aspect of hockey…
and teams, whether, sports, band, corporate, are often a good way to build bonds…
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It’s good that you have kept the friendships going for all those years. It is something I regret that I’ve never been very good at, and I miss out on days like this.
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I have not kept in touch with any friends from grade school or high school, but I think being on the swim team in college helped build the friendship…
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I’m sure that has helped – that bond and team spirit has clearly stayed with you all.
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it seems to have…
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Great reminiscing Jim 😎
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thanks, Val!
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😂 Men! Glad you had a great time with your friends.
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thanks, it was a lot of fun!
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Glad the security guard had a sense of humour. They don’t always! Give a cheer for the lads who never grow up!
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yes, we did get lucky with the security guard not overreacting. and te not growing up is right up my alley 🙂
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That’s a great photo. I know some teammates remain friends while other drift off to never be heard from again. Glad yours stayed together.
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we have lost touch with a few, but for those of us still in the Philly area, we have stayed in touch over the years…
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Hi Jim, what a great picture. It so wonderful that you have these long lasting friendships. I never attended one school long enough to make very good friends and I moved around as a young adult too. A rolling stone gathers no moss is the old saying.
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I feel blessed to have such close ties to these guys…
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Great time you had! Yes, I feel like sports is a huge connector for people (especially men). This pandemic has been hard on him (especially at the height of it) due to the fact that all sports were halted (TV and in-person) and even recreational sports (he has a summer softball league he plays in) … all that halted sense of escapism from his regular day-to-day grind… felt bad for the guy!
Also, just before the pandemic, I had gotten tickets from my bank LOL I was luckily drawn out of a hat and we got to go to a Raptors game (free food and snacks and got to meet a couple veteran players)! It was sooo cool!!
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I agree that sports is a common language for many guys. That is a shame about your husband missing out on the softball league. Hoepfully it will take place as planned this year. That must have been fun to see the Raptors game, and what a bonus to meet some of the former players…
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Your title and the content of the post reminded of a joke I heard today
‘I entered a contest to see who had lost the most hair and gained the most weight, obviously it wasn’t called that, the invite said ‘school reunion”
Otherwise glad you had a good time, I caught up with uni friends a few years ago and the conversation was similar saying we couldn’t believe it had been ten years.
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that is a funny line, and likely close to the truth. and time does fly…
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Fun post. Old friends are Awesome! Love how you didn’t really watch the game.
Cheers to friendship! Friends that you see in person and friends online. 😉
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it was a fun evening, and it was icing on the cake that the Flyers won.
and yes indeed it’s fun to have friends everywhere!
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😊
If only we could find a central place for all bloggers to meet! Pennsylvania seems central to me, don’t you agree? LOL!
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I think central PA is the perfect place to meet!
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I thought you would agree! 🙂
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You’re a lucky guy to have friends like that. So black hat guy is the one who quit his job when you visited Vancouver? What a legend.
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yes, black hat guy is the one who quit his job as a chef in Vail the day myself and a couple of other friends arrived in Vail. The tall guy behind me in the photo was one of the guys on that road trip. Legendary indeed. And I can’t believe you remembered that!
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He is one of my personal heroes.
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I will let him know!
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aw, this is wonderful, and glad you are all still connected. p.s. I love your title
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yes, I feel lucky to still have the connections.
and thanks for the props on the title. I did have another one I almost used: “What Has 12 Thumbs and Has Gained 300 Pounds Since College”, but I went with the kinder, gentler version 🙂
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Ayy, great to have a face to the blog. I know I’ve seen you in your exercise mishap post (or am I remembering things wrongly?) but it’s great to have an updated pic so that, you know, I can input you into my face scanning software or something.
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that was me with my two wrists in a cast – you’ve got a good memory. Feel free to put me into your software, although it could cause your system to crash… 🙂
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I loved this!! What a super photo. Friends are for life, and yes, sports are a great bond and establish lifelong friendships. You guys are a hoot! My best friend’s sister went to East Stroudsburg. Joy Aimen. She might have been a few years older than you guys.
Okay, here is my great Flyers story. Newly married, never even heard of the sport (I know, that’s horrible), and Hubby tries to ‘teach’ me about hockey watching a game on an 11″ black & white TV. It was ants swarming randomly. Fast forward a few months and my company had tickets to a preseason Flyers game. This was just what I needed to (hopefully) learn the game, and of course Hubby was out of his mind excited to go to a Flyers hockey game. Ron Duguay skated onto the ice and everyone whistled and yelled ‘pretty boy.’ He was young, had long hair, and did not wear a helmet. I’ll never forget that. I don’t remember who won the game, but I sure remembered ‘pretty boy.’ And, I learned about hockey (love it!)
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it was a fun night.
what a great story about the Flyers. It’s my least favorite of pro sports, but I am a Flyers fan, especially during the playoffs! 🙂
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I hope you guys keep getting together every once in a while. I’m glad you liked the Flyers story, Jim! Hockey is popular here up north.
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we are planning to get together this summer down the shore! I don’t think there will be any swimming races though…
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Ah, memories of the Jersey Shore are good, especially Stone Harbor. Looking forward to hearing about your hook up.
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we always went to Ocean City, but anywhere at the Jersey shore is a good day
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You bet it is!
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This is fantastic Jim! So nice that you could build lifelong friendships like that. Even though I had some great friends back then we didn’t keep in touch. I think the fact that everyone but me got married kind of left me out of the pack! I loved this post, thanks for sharing Jim!😁🌞😺
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thanks, Steve. It was a fun get together. There are several people from the swim team that I have lost touch with over the years. It helps that we are still relatively close to each other geographically…
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Yes, that would make a difference being fairly close to each other. That’s another thing with my friends and I, we spread out right across the country.
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that makes it quite challenging to stay in touch with each other…
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Especially back in the earlier days before we had computers and cell phones.
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makes you wonder how we were able to stay in touch with each other at all back then!
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It certainly was not as easy and long distance phone calls were so expensive back then too!
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It also made it easy to avoid talking with people if you so chose! 🙂
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Yes, there were advantages that way too. Of course, we didn’t have call display for a long time either, so you didn’t know who was calling until saying hello!😂
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I do like having caller display! How did we do without it? 🙂
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We were daring, and took chances picking up the phone!😂
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yes we were. and it made prank calls easier 🙂
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That is so true! Wait, does that mean we are both guilty of doing that?🤔😁
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apparently!
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😁😹
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Treasured friendships that become more valuable as we age. 🙂
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indeed they do…
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Nice wee tale Jim. There’s no laughter like old friends’ laughter
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ain’t that the truth…
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