This story has been making its way around social media over the past week, so some of you may already be familiar with it.
From my perspective, it falls into the category of “Outrageous Behavior”.
As you can see from the image above, this story revolves around a couple (Doug and Dedra) who recently got married, at a destination wedding in Jamaica.
Apparently, one of the couples invited to the wedding had RSVP’d that they would be there, but ended up being no shows.
The newlyweds then decided to send an invoice to this couple, charging them $240, the cost of their seats.
The groom, a small business owner in Chicago, stressed that it’s not about money. He and his new bride were merely hurt and felt disrespected by the no-shows at their hard-earned dream wedding with more than 100 attendees. “Four times we asked, ‘Are you available to come, can you make it?,’ and they kept saying ‘Yes,’ ” he told the New York Post. “We had to pay in advance for Jamaica — this was a destination wedding.”
It seems to me that when the newlyweds planned this wedding, they invited a certain number of guests, and thus knew what the cost of the wedding was going to be, and I assume they had budgeted for that cost. At that point, if someone becomes a no-show, it doesn’t really affect the amount you had budgeted. While I understand that the newlyweds had to pay for the cost of the no-shows, they had already planned to do so anyway.
I agree it was rude behavior by the no-show couple to not inform the newlyweds that they would not be attending, but I don’t think such behavior warrants an invoice being sent to you.
I wonder if this was the newlyweds way of asking for a gift from the no-shows. If so, it is a terrible way of doing so. I’m also curious that if this no-show couple had sent a gift in advance, would the newlyweds have still sent the invoice? And what if a wedding gift does arrive from the no-show couple, let’s say in the amount of $200. Would that satisfy the invoice? Would it end the hostilities?
I doubt that the no-show couple will pay the invoice.
But I have little doubt what this will do for the relationship between the two couples…