It was a good week, thanks to Dan Ariely. I was able to use two letters from his advice column to create two posts.
In case you missed it, here is the first one about putting your camera away when you are trying to create memories.
And here is the second:
My fiancé is an excellent cook, and every meal he makes for us is delicious. I’m always giving him compliments, but I worry that over time they will be less meaningful because he’ll get used to them. How can I continue to praise his cooking in a way that shows I mean it? —Sydney
Here was Dan’s answer:
I wouldn’t worry too much about your fiancé getting used to your compliments. Research shows that receiving compliments is very motivating and that people who give them usually underestimate their impact on the recipient. One study that looked specifically at frequent compliments found they didn’t lose their effectiveness as long as they weren’t identical each time. So keep the compliments coming, but make sure to switch them up from time to time.
I wholeheartedly agree with Dan. I never get tired of compliments.
And I wouldn’t even care if the compliments were identical each time.
So go ahead, compliment away.
In fact, you can just copy and paste the following if you want:
Great post, Jim. One of your best ever. Loved the insight and the humor.