The title of this post is a twist on one of my favorite songs, “Once Bitten, Twice Shy”, by Ian Hunter, former lead singer for the British band Mott the Hoople.
If you’re not familiar with the phrase, here is the definition from the Cambridge Dictionary:
said when you are frightened to do something again because you had an unpleasant experience doing it the first time
The phrase was the first that came to my mind as I read the following letter to Dan Ariely in this week’s advice column:
Dear Dan,
Earlier this year my brother decided to have cosmetic surgery. He understood that there was some risk involved, although it was low. Unfortunately, there were complications during the surgery and he ended up even more dissatisfied with his appearance than before. Now he’s considering a second surgery to correct the first one, but he’s worried that he’s making the same mistake twice. Do you think he should go ahead? —Lee
And here is Dan’s response:
Learning from past decisions is important, but it’s tricky to be sure we’re learning the right thing. In your brother’s case, the fact that his decision to have surgery led to unfavorable results doesn’t necessarily mean the decision was wrong. It’s easy to be swayed by “outcome bias”—using our knowledge of how a decision turned out to judge whether it was right in the first place. Based on the available information at the time, having the surgery could have been the right decision even if it turned out badly.
Likewise, your brother has to decide about a second surgery based on the information that’s available now, not knowing what the future will bring. My advice is for him to talk to his surgeon and learn everything he can about the probability of new complications. He should only go forward with the surgery if he’s willing to live with that risk, knowing that it can be reduced but not eliminated.
It seems to me that if the risks are exactly the same as they were the first time, and he is willing to take the risk then, then Lee should be willing to go through with the second surgery as well.
However, it may be that there are a couple of confounding factors to consider before Lee makes his decision.
First, the original risk may have been for an average person, while there may be something unique about Lee that was not known prior to the first surgery that may have increased the odds of an unfavorable outcome (e.g., weight, blood pressure, bone structure). Now that the impact of this characteristic is known, it could change the odds of whether the surgery would be successful the second time around.
Also, Lee may not want to get advice from the same surgeon he used the first time. Perhaps while Lee was given overall averages as to what the success rate is for the surgery he is getting done, this specific surgeon may not have the same odds. The surgeon could be inexperienced, or it may have been along time since he or she has done such a procedure. If that is the case, Dan may want to get a second opinion, and the possible follow-up surgery, from a different doctor.
(And finally, it could have been the surgeon’s birthday).
So it’s understandable that Lee could be hesitant the second time around, after the surgery was unsuccessful the first time. You know, once botched, twice shy.
Here’s the song:
I love this!… A new one for me…Thank you for sharing, Jim 🙂 x
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you are quite welcome, Carol!
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I agree with your analysis, Jim. Maybe switching docs is best. The answer could also depend on the goal of the surgery and why the patient was “dissatisfied” with the results. Fixing ugly is hard. 😄
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great closing sentence 🙂
reminds me of the saying: Never get in a fight with an ugly person – they have nothing to lose…
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When two ugly people fight it’s hard to tell who won or lost.🤣
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🙂
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The mistake would have had to be pretty bad in order for me to risk going under the knife again and I would want to switch surgeons too, but I probably wouldn’t have even gone under the knife in the first place unless the reason was really serious! I am not a fan of surgeries, I can find a lot of other ways I would rather spend my money and time!
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unless it was medically necessary, I would not opt for cosmetic surgery either…
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Exactly!
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Interesting post, Jim. Some famous people have had so many plastic surgeries they look worse than when they started. I don’t have any evidence to back up my opinion, but I think it is a bit of an addiction.
My brother, Tom, was nicknamed Mot in college (as mot in reverse is tom) after Mott the Hoople. The version of the son I was familiar with was performed by the group, Great White. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bz61YQWZuYU
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I agree that plstic surgery is an addiction for some people.
And I heard that Great White had also performed the song, but had never seen it until now. Thanks for the link – that was quite good…
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I cannot believe someone asked this question in an advice column. Especially without specifics as to what his brother had done and why. And surely the choice was not his to make for his brother. Maybe he should have spoken to a local psychologist? Just my opinion.
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I agree with seeking more advice…
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Because of my experience surgeries brings all things sad for me… Love the song… the guitar 🥰
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the song is great!
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After what I’ve gone through with my sons, Jim, and their 30 surgeries, my faith in doctors is low and I would never have cosmetic surgery.
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wow – 30 surgeries! Unless medically necessary, I would never have cosmetic surgery either…
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nooooooooooooooooo. p.s. your surgeon’s birthday comment harkening back to your earlier post. icing on the cake.
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thanks, Beth!
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In for a penny, in for a pound!
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another great saying!
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If Lee was sufficiently stupid to do it once, he will presumably do it again! The Ian Hunter original was a hit in my final year at uni, that takes me back a bit! Glad you didn’t share the Great White rip-off version. Status Quo also covered the song, among others.
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I hope Lee gives it serious thought the second time…
I never heard The Great White version before Pete sent me a link. I didn’t think it was too bad, but not as good as the original…
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He should be made to watch a few episodes of ‘Botched!’
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🙂
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Sorry, forgot the song. I just thought it was a poor copy that added nothing to the original – the worst kind of cover, in my view.
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good point, it did sound remarkably similar to the original, but without Ian Hunter and company…
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Exactly – it was missing all the important parts!
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👍
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There wasn’t enough information the question, but Dan covered all the bases very masterfully. He only missed the very important birthday part. Thanks for reminding me about Mott the Hoople ♥️
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I liked Dan’s answer as well. Mott the Hoople should be in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame…
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Since this sap is so concerned with how he looks, he might be better off using a different surgeon. If he uses the same surgeon again, and has the same outcome, boy wouldn’t he look stupid?
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maybe the surgery was so that he could get the stupid look…
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I suppose. Maybe he was a clown, by profession.
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a misunderstood, but noble profession
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Indeed.
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